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Deedre Daniel, The Interesting Conversations Company<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Ever find yourself talking with someone who is draining the life out of the conversation? Are you afraid YOU\u2019RE that person? Or do people tune you out when you\u2019re talking, preferring to check their phone instead? Deedre Daniel of The Interesting Conversations Company<\/a><\/strong> guided ASAE attendees through the \u201c7 Deadly Habits\u201d that might send your conversations to the emergency room in an effort to show How to Be More Interesting Than a Cell Phone\u00ae:<\/p>\n

7 Deadly Habits of Conversations<\/h2>\n
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  1. The Complainer<\/strong> \u2013 This person can\u2019t stop being negative about any topic at hand.<\/li>\n
  2. The Interrupter<\/strong> \u2013 There are two kinds of Interrupter. The Hijacker constantly cuts off your conversation at the knees and redirects to other topics that usually revolve around themselves. The Time Hopper skips around topics without allowing anyone else to chime in much, and answers questions you didn\u2019t even ask.<\/li>\n
  3. The Droner<\/strong> \u2013 This talker goes on and on (and on), and often brings up dusty topics from the basement of their mind.<\/li>\n
  4. The FOMO-er<\/strong> \u2013 They\u2019re always interested in what else is going on besides your conversation. They\u2019re looking at their phone, scanning the room, or leaving your conversation early to go talk to someone they think might be more interesting.<\/li>\n
  5. The Gossiper<\/strong> \u2013 They know they shouldn\u2019t bathe in the flaws of other people, but they do it anyway. Their sentences often start with a variation of \u201cI really like them! But [insert flaw here]\u2026\u201d<\/li>\n
  6. The One-Upper<\/strong> \u2013 Whatever you do, they\u2019ve done it better. Or know someone who has done it better. They always have to best you and your stories.<\/li>\n
  7. The Researcher<\/strong> \u2013 This know-it-all has to prove your statements are incorrect. With smart phone in hand, they\u2019ll Google your assertions no matter how trivial. Accuracy and precision are good things, to be sure, but if you\u2019re simply trying to bond with someone, you\u2019ll force someone\u2019s guard up if you\u2019re constantly trying to prove them wrong.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    If you don\u2019t think you\u2019re one of the seven types above, you\u2019re probably a denier<\/strong>, or a daydreamer<\/strong> \u2013 everyone commits at least one of these seven deadly conversation sins whether we realize it or not. It\u2019s human nature.<\/p>\n

    The Interesting Person READS Every Day<\/h2>\n

    But there is hope for becoming a more interesting, fair and pleasant conversationalist! Deedre recommends keeping the acronym READS in mind. The person who is more interesting than a cell phone READS every day:<\/p>\n

    R: Remove filters<\/h3>\n

    Get rid of any barriers to actively listening to the person talking. Put away your phone. Additionally, be yourself! Remove any figurative masks that conceal who you really are. Be more genuine. Say what you\u2019re thinking \u2013 it\u2019s freeing, and it will help you connect better with others.<\/p>\n

    E: Empathize<\/h3>\n

    After you\u2019ve removed such filters, you\u2019ll be much more easily able to emphasize with the other person (or people) in the conversation. Active listening means you\u2019re thinking about them, not yourself, and how you might respond. Empathetic listeners are great at working toward a solution if one is needed, or just being there for the other person.<\/p>\n

    A: Ask better questions<\/h3>\n

    The tried-and-true question \u201cWhat do you do?\u201d is rude when you think about it. You\u2019re basically asking how much money someone makes. Before your next networking event, think of a handful of more interesting questions that will make people stop, think, and want to give a thoughtful answer.<\/p>\n

    D: Debate<\/h3>\n

    Polite debate has lost its way in society, says Deedre, and we need to get people comfortable with the act of debating without getting defensive. It\u2019s fun and healthy to debate other points of view without feeling like it challenges your core sense of self. Come to a conversation with a debate topic that\u2019s lighthearted \u2013 such as \u201cWhich is better for a human: chocolate or kissing?\u201d \u2013 to practice debating without making the debate too personal.<\/p>\n

    S: Spike the conversation<\/h3>\n

    Know some wacky, but universally interesting, facts that would interest anyone. Fun factoids help others lighten up and dream together. Have follow-up questions related to the fact that keep people thinking and interested.<\/p>\n

    What do you think about these tips? Do you have a time-tested conversation strategy? Share it with us in the comments!<\/p>\n

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